Respect

Respect

(#32 of our Together-Ensemble series)

Whether we look at national media around the EU, or even some national political leaders, it seems that the value of respect seems pretty absent everywhere today.

Could a lack of respect be the root cause of wider issues we see in society, such as homelessness, extreme poverty, political conflicts or perhaps even in the way colleagues within an organisation treat each other?

And, if so, to what extent is it possible that those who feel that they have not been respected would begin to respect others?

Are we listening attentively? Are we protecting enough those who feel and/or are in vulnerable positions?

With the help of our guest speakers, in this session, we explored the ways to build a more respectful and collaborative culture, dedicated to peace and well-being, all over the world.

OPENING CONVERSATION

Emmanuel Foulon, columnist at “La faute à l’Europe“ (weekly French TV programme) and expert on political strategy and communication at france.tv studio
Magali Plovi, President of the Brussels Francophone Parliament
Pascal Dias, Manager of ECTL technical unit delivering European services to aviation; passionate about interactions at work ; promoter of teamwork and diversity. Active in addition as a coach within his Agency for 15 years, and in particular organising co-development sessions for managers.

The video will be added soon

MAIN RECOMMENDATIONS FROM THE WORKSHOP

Over than 100 colleagues from the EU Institutions contributed to this workshop and formulated the following recommendations.

  • Behaviours to earn other people’s respect: Listening to people. Letting them speak. Being empathetic. Willingness and ability to change. Not judging. Speaking the truth with respect. Providing recognition. Being kind and nice. Providing genuine and honest helpfulness. Achieving objectives despite hurdles. Seeing the whole person, and not only their role/function. Treating others with respect, including animals and the Earth. Recognising when there is something that we don’t know or don’t understand. Sticking to promises. Getting to know the qualities of the other. Being an accountable team player. Being ethical. Showing behaviour consistent with stated values. Treating people fairly. Doing what we say and saying what we will do. Loyalty.  Accepting that the other does not want to listen and/or respond. Showing respect for yourself/ self-respect. Showing trust. By respecting the rules of society, we respect others. Recognising own mistake/willingness to change/ability to change. Treating others in the same way we want to be treated.
  • Necessary changes to our culture: Rigidity and deaf hierarchy needs to walk the walk. Lead by example but not only from the top, also from the bottom or from the middle to avoid any bottlenecks. It is always someone else who should change, never us. More frequent feedback dedicated sessions with our leaders. Create environment of tolerance & no judgment. Establish less competitive systems. Improve diversity and inclusion everywhere. Accept better shortcomings. Create mentoring schemes everywhere / wave of humanity / force for good. Culture of systematic feedback. Be ambassor of the culture of respect.  What do we want to keep and celebrate to create a more respectful world? Ban discrimination. Remove the rigid hierarchy. Much more bottom up Initiatives. Accept that people are different and show that you cannot change character of people. But, end with systematic victimisation of the person who shows bad behaviour. Stimulate sense of responsibility in all through restorative justice. More attention to people’s talents and whether they are given all possibilities to grow. Don’t ignore the needs of people around you. Respect is something earned – a two way system where you need to treat others respectfully in order to be respected. Speak one common language which everybody understands. Train everyone to avoid biases. Tell others if you do not appreciate their behaviour. Eliminate the word “hierarchy”. Stop with “protectionism”, that is justifying disrespectful behaviours just because “the person is done this way” or “s/he an excellent worker” Respect is defined as a positive feeling towards people. One should be respectful to everybody. Be kind and courteous towards everyone. Compare ourselves less to others, and be happy with what we have (while striving to improve). We fail to recognize that our competitors may be as good or better than us. ‘We are always the best, and the others are simply not recognising it’ should be avoided. Show more recognition. Celebrate achievements together. Ask for feedback on how respectful and inclusive I am perceived. Apply respect everywhere and every day Work on my listening ability by being more aware that I need to change to be able to really listen. More opportunities for wellbeing activities everywhere. Culture of gratefulness. Concentrate on the  positive things. Be more open to those putting us aside. Put yourself in others’ shoes. Always insist on getting respect from people having difficulties to show respect. Say thank you more often. Go with a smile to work, to meetings, etc. You should not find the happiness of your life in your work only.

Related links:

Share the actions for happiness calendars https://www.actionforhappiness.org/

La faute à l’europe ? de France Info en replay (francetvinfo.fr)

Accueil — Parlement Francophone Bruxellois

The following session is on “belonging”.

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